Motivation For Your Day :)

Don't allow how someone treats you to become the way you see yourself!

How To Rid Yourself Of Feeling Bad

So maybe you screwed things up with a crush or even your best friend. Maybe you offended someone and you didn't mean to. Maybe the roles are reversed and you're the one who got hurt. Either way, fear not!! There is a way to mend your own pain and move on and make the situation better.

First off, whether you're the victim or the one who caused pain on someone else, you feel frustrated. Take at least a few moments to release it as much as you can. After doing such, take a bath and listen to music while focusing on yourself for a little bit. When you're finally calm, say to yourself "What am I going to do about this?"

Beyonce only allows herself to feel bad for herself for one day. Then she says she asks herself what she's going to do about it. I followed this advice and it was life changing!

I had a crush on a guy who works at the local store where I am. I don't know how but i offended him somehow and he began to give me cold shoulder, like for real! I threw a fit when I saw his reaction to me because of course, I didn't know what I did! I got mad at him, myself, the situation and then I quickly realized that me pouting and making a fool out of myself wasn't going to help anything. I decided that I had to give myself two options: a) stay looking like a moron while he continues to move on with his life and you continue to feel stupid or b) Decide to do something about it and move on. I chose B. I decided that the next day, I would go talk to him and figure it out and then move on with my life without him or the potential of us in it. I felt a lot better after deciding such a thing! I had to mentally and emotionally prepare myself if he decided he didn't want to talk to me about it though. He had another girl he liked that I guess he began to pursue (he actually called the girl in front of me too so when I say he totally gave cold shoulder, I'm not lying!).  Either way, this was not about making him feel better, it was about me.

This process is not for the other person, it is for you. The only person who's feelings matter is your own. The better you feel the better the situation becomes. I promise! Of course time heals all wounds completely but this is what you can do for yourself at the moment and make yourself feel a lot better.

This isn't just for when you hurt someone or if someone hurt you, it's for any or every situation. If you get a bad grade, what are you going to do about it? If you mess up during a dance recital, what are you going to do about it? You have to remember that continuing to feel bad is a choice. Choose to feel good! This is your life, you make it what you want. Do not let situations and people control how you want it to go.

I hope I helped someone today! If you ever need advice, hit me up on twitter :)

Love,
Flair <3
@FlairBerry

Valentines Hair, Makeup and Outfit Idea!

 

Romantic Curls

What you need: 

 *Curling Iron /Wand  or Flat Iron (half an inch or an inch for both)

*Hair extentions (optional)

*Hairspray

Step 1: Section off your hair into a top section and a bottom section. Clip up the top and starting at the bottom, curl one inch sections of hair.  

Step 2: When you get to the top section, section off a side part. When you have your side part, curl one inch sections of hair away from your face.

Step 3: Hairspray your hair and play around with the curls until they look as perfect as you like. Then, you're done!

*Option: Curl your hair extensions and add them to your hair for added volume.

 Sweet and Simple

This is a very simple look. Just do your regular foundation and highlight+contouring routine. Afterwards, add a winged eye, a flirty berry lip, fill in your eyebrows and apply your fave mascara!

 

Darling Ensemble

You can't celebrate a day like Valentine's day without wearing a little lace! In the photo, it looks like her top is a lace body suit. The skirt is a classic A-line skirt. Her shoes are pointed heels and she's wearing pearl bracelet variations (some small beaded some big beaded). I'm pretty sure you can find pieces like these at places like Forever 21 and Asos!

So that is my Valentines Day look idea! I hope it inspired you! Stay tuned in for more blog posts.

Love Always,

Flair <3

P.S. Remember, Valentines day isn't just for couples. You can still have a great time on valentines day with your best friends or even by yourself!

Elegance- A vintage inspired ensemble

Elegance by flairberry featuring a lace dress

Winter Peacoats! (Inspired by Blair Waldorf)

 

Red is appropiate for any occasion. Its classic and it turns the most ordinary outfit into something very chic. I absolutely jadore this red peacoat on Blair! She paired it with a black ruffled purse, a cute top with a gold bow tie and black gloves. This look is perfect for your upcoming holiday parties.

This outfit screams sophistication! Here you see Blair with a bone colored peacoat that has golden belt holders. She has a bone colored flower in her hair, a bone scarf and a red purse and you can tell from her wrist, she has a black, long sleeve top underneath her coat. Bone is a color of perfection. Its an off white color giving you a more sophisticated feel instead of so structured like the color white. The red just adds on to the sophistication of the outfit and the bow gives it some youth. This look is perfect for a business meeting, a lunch out with friends or a stroll in the park with your favorite pooch!

This look is more on the dramatic side. She has on a blue peacoat with ruffle detailing on the bottom. Its paired with patterned tights, a black detailed scarf and a red purse. This look is perfect for the sassy girl who isnt afraid to express herself. I'm not sure where you could find a coat similar to this that includes the ruffles but you could always go find a really nice peacoat at a thrift store and add ruffles to it yourself. If you wanted to tone this look down, you could always find a nice, regular, blue peacoat without ruffles in mind. This look is perfect holiday dinner or party!

I hope you've gained some inspiration from this post! Thank you so much for reading! Come back soon!

XO,

Flair

Tips on Acing Your Finals/Tips For Test Taking

Finals are considered the most stressful series of tests to take for school. They are the tests that out of all of the others you've had to be bothered with for the school year, matters the most. It determines where you're going to be for next year so understandably, it can be a very nerve wrecking thing. Here are my top 5 tips that have helped me and my friends not look at test taking so intimidatingly and actually pass.

1. Don't Stress
Most people already have the thought in their heads "Omg im gonna fail!" or "Omg what if I fail?! My parents are going to KILL me!!!" etc etc. Those thoughts are just something I call "Doubt Bullies". Doubt Bullies fill your head with things that aren't true. Everyone has the potential to get a good grade on their final! Your thoughts create your world so if you start thinking you're going to fail, chances are, you will. That being said, it is important that you go into your test with a positive, optimistic attitude about passing. You have to believe in yourself and know that you are smart enough to succeed.

2. Don't Overload Studying
Most people think that if they run through flashcards over and over and over they're going to have EVERYTHING down and memorized and get a guaranteed A. Wrong!! Actually, this goes in line with the first tip because when you study and study and study, you're basically telling yourself "I'm not ready." You have to be so confident in yourself that you won't feel the need to study a bajillion times. Yes, studying is good and important but when you're stressed out while studying, it has absolutely no affect on your brain at all. Even though you'll think you have it all down, because you put so much negative energy into studying, you're going to forget more than half of what you worked so hard on.
Most people think that studying is the one and only key to passing; This is the first mistake. When it comes to studying, don't look at studying as your only key to passing. Look at it as "I know this stuff, I just want to refresh my brain a little." The key to passing a test isn't about how hard you study, it's about paying enough attention to your classes, that you know (and understand) what you need to know to pass.
If you need to, get a study partner (preferably one who is known for taking notes) to help you review. Another thing that could help you not overload on studying is to set up a study schedule. Set certain days, times and how long you'll be studying during those times, to help you balance out your mind.

3. Eat and Sleep
Do not skip breakfast, do not stay up late. You need to feel as rejuvenized as possible for test day. If you're tired, you can't focus. If you're hungry, you cant focus! Its a lose, lose situation! Sleeping enough will help you feel more optimistic in the morning because when you do, you wake up bright, happy and ready to take on the day. Whereas when you're tired, you don't want to see anyone, you don't want to talk to anyone and you're just grumpy! That kind of attitude isn't going to help you pass your test because at every question, you're just going to be all "Whatever." and not even care if you get something wrong when you had the potential to actually get it right.
You can't test on an empty stomach because the only thing that'll be playing on a loop in the back of your mind is: "I'm hungry I'm hungry I'm hungry" which will cause frustration because you can't focus on questions.
So do yourself a favor, and allow yourself to eat and sleep.

4. Don't Obsess Over It
After you're done with your studying sessions, get the test out of your mind. Dont think about it, Dont talk about how worried you are about it, leave it alone until it's time for you to review again. The more you obsess over it, the more stressed out you're going to be over it.

5. Just Breathe

 When test day comes, just breathe. You know you can do it, you know you're going to pass and that's it. If you go in with a optimistic attitude and you've studied your best, all you have to do now is know you've got this thing covered. Know that you have nothing to worry about. 

If you get freaked out by questions and freeze, just remind yourself that you know the answer and just breathe. If it helps, keep summer on your mind! Think about tanning, being with your best friends, think about the beach. Dab some sunscreen on your wrists so that smelling it calms you down. Think about road trips and taking tons of pictures. Know that at the end of all of this testing, it will all be worth it!

I hope this helped you! You can do it!!

Love,

Flair <3

A Broken Hearted Girl's Guide To Valentines Day

Ok, worst day to come when your breakup still feels fresh huh? If you haven't read my "Don't Pressure Yourself, Love Yourself" post, it's on the left. It's about being single on valentines day and why you shouldn't feel bad about it. Even though I already have a blog post similar, I thought I'd make a new one that's relatable for people who are in the same scenario as me (had a relationship fail right before). Don't forget though, I'm on this journey right along with you so nothing that is being said right now, is said out of the view of the outside looking in. 

Here are my top 4 things that will help you cope with Valentines Day:

When you're dealing with a breakup, the one thing you do need is some outside interaction. Being inside and moping is NOT going to help you. I know some people say that you should take time to let your feelings out but you also need to take time to heal yourself.

Part of the healing process is getting out and getting your mind off of your ex and just having a good time. So this Valentines Day, take this idea into consideration.

 

Have A Girls Night

 

 

 

Valentines day is on a Thursday this year (a school day) so maybe after school that day, go out and with your friends and eat some pretty dessert.

  

Treat Yourself To Some Spa Treatment

If your friends aren't available to hang, treat yourself to some spa treatment! Give yourself a facial and a mani and pedi (and if you don't feel like doing it yourself, schedule one)!







Write A Wishlist

Write out qualities of your "Prince Charming". Give him a name, write out his phsyical features, personality traits even get detailed with things like height and sound of his voice. Write out how he'll treat you and if you want to, put a deadline on it.

From experience, this absolutely works. In the 6th grade I wrote a list and prayed everyday for that guy to come to me before I turned 15. Do you know, that  I met the EXACT person I described on my wishlist? Everything from A-Z was this guy! At first I didn't recognize that this person was meant for me at the moment because I hadn't looked at the list in forever. I felt a connection with him and didn't know why until I began talking to him. I was like "Holy gawd..its him!" when I finally realized it!

Unfortunately, I wasn't specific enough though. Here's a tip: make sure that when you put that you'll be forever in love with him, that you also put that his feelings will be the same towards you!

Now the only way this works is having faith that he will come to you. That's it. No doubts, no fears, no questions- you know that he's coming!

Writing out a wishlist for your future love helps you get over your breakup and getting over feeling alone on valentines day.

Get Valentines Day Gifts For Your Friends

 Getting a nice gift for your friends will help you show your appreciation for them. You don't have to buy anything! Making a gift would make it more special than actually spending money on something. Along with that, make a card letting them know how much they mean to you. If you just want to make the card, that's ok too!
Remember, Valentines Day isn't just about couples and romance. It's about showing appreciation to the people you love too.







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